In our last article we talked about setting bigger goals. I hope you were inspired to do so, because you deserve and are capable of a joyful, abundant life. Once you successfully quell the voices in your head enough to set some really exciting goals, expect to experience some considerations, fears and roadblocks. Most people take this as a sign to stop; as confirmation that the voices in their head were right all along. Don’t fall for it.
Considerations will come up fast and furious. It is common to worry that you don’t know how. That’s ok, remember there is nothing you do now, that at one time, you didn’t know how to do. You are capable and will find resources not yet known. You may feel that you don’t really deserve what you want. You do. Ask any qualified coach for resources to help you get unstuck. If you are a couch potato and set a goal to get in shape, you may consider it will require getting up early to start training, or that dieting will be hard. So what? Just decide you are willing to pay the price and you will. Brian Tracy put it very simply. He said “decide what you want in life, figure out what the price is, and go about paying that price”. If you don’t want to pay the price, you can’t have it. It doesn’t get much simpler than that.
Fear, we like to refer to as F.E.A.R. as False Evidence Appearing Real. You may fear humiliation just by telling people about your goal. You may find some people who are jealous because they never let themselves set their dreams as goals, but you will also find supporters who will help you achieve your goal. If you don’t tell people, no one will help you achieve it. You may fear failure, or losing money or emotional or physical pain, or even losing friends. Expect the fears as part of the process. Take adequate caution to make wise decisions, and get on with your work. When you get stuck in fear, we have a wide variety of tools to help. One of the most powerful I’ve seen is RIM (see www.intus.life/rim).
Roadblocks are simply things that will need to be dealt with. You may need to find a partner or borrow money, get more education, change your schedule, or negotiate arrangements with your family. Unlike fears, roadblocks are real things that occur outside of yourself. Remember, resourcefulness is the most valuable resource of all. I was born into poverty on my alcoholic father’s junkyard and now I live on the golf course in a beautiful country club. If I can do it, so can you.
Michael Kline is a Certified Jack Canfield Success Trainer, Rim Master and Coach, living in Sarasota. He can be reached through his website, www.intus.life or firstname.lastname@example.org