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The Secret to driving hard results isn't what you think

1/30/2017

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By Michael Kline
When we conjure up an image up a leader in business, we might see the stereotypical tall, white man, with chiseled jaw, expensive suit, power tie, you get the picture – a sort of super-hero with an MBA and an unhealthy amount of confidence matched only by his lack of compassion. The strong, results-oriented driver personality, win at all costs, take no prisoners, bottom-line boss image can provide a sense of comfort to employees, investors and clients alike, especially when feeling anxious about the future. It makes sense to our primal nature that a strong leader can solve our problems and keep us safe.
 
No offense to tall people or nice suits, I happen to like both. The problem with becoming a leader (boss), or choosing our leaders with this mindset, is that our tribe isn’t fighting off wild animals and other invading tribes. Of course we all feel fearful at times, and of course it’s natural to respond to fear from the reptilian part of our brain that says we need power or protection to overcome whatever it is we fear.
 
A research team at Cornell University studied the leadership styles, backgrounds and track records of 72 senior executives across 31 companies and concluded that harsh, hard-driving, executives actually diminish the bottom line, while self-aware leaders with strong interpersonal skills produced better financial results. “Bully traits that are often seen as part of a business-building culture were typically signs of incompetence and lack of strategic intellect. Such weaknesses as being arrogant, too direct or impatient and stubborn, correlated with low ratings for delivering financial results, business/technical acumen, strategic intellect, and, not surprisingly, managing talent, inspiring followership, and being a team player.”  There is a better way.
 
While Self-awareness get little attention in the business world, the Cornell study reveals that it should actually be a top concern. High self-awareness scores were the best predictor of overall success. It makes sense that executives who are aware of the lenses through which they filter their perceptions and assumptions might have a more honest grasp of reality, affecting their relationships, decisions and actions. Further, having realistic confidence and an awareness of their own limitations would allow them to hire subordinates who complement their talents.
 
According to Daniel Goleman, renowned Emotional Intelligence expert, “self-awareness is the skill that requires the most patience and honesty, and provides the best foundation for further developing Emotional and Social Intelligence in both work and life situations.” 
 
It seems that soft values drive hard results.
 
Goleman’s research colleague, Richard Davidson, a neuroscientist at the University of Wisconsin, explains the mind-body connection of self-awareness. “We know that Emotional Self-Awareness can begin with sensations in your body or with your thoughts. When emotions are activated, they are accompanied by bodily changes. There may be changes in breathing rate, in muscle tension, in heart rate. Emotional Self-Awareness in part is the awareness of one's own body.”
 
As a RIM practitioner (Regenerating Images in Memory), I learned this from my teacher and mentor Dr. Deb Sandella, founder of The RIM Institute and author of Goodbye Hurt and Pain. It’s called interoception, the sensing of feelings as they flow through the body, bringing helpful feedback, if we pay attention. With RIM, we guide clients to use body sensing to tap into these usually unnoticed emotions.
 
The subconscious speaks in metaphors and images while the intellect speaks in thoughts and words. When we use imagination to translate and synthesize feelings, a whole-brain experience is created. The results are profound. Neuroscience explains how it works—this ability to change our emotional memory to create new endings to old stories that shape our self-concept, world-views and limiting beliefs.  All the while factual memory remains intact and the client remains in total control. In addition to relieving stress, anxiety, emotional and physical pain, the client enjoys increased internal insight, resourcefulness and self-awareness. 
 
Because emotional work is invisible and intangible, it can seem complicated, difficult to measure, time-consuming, expensive, and unrelated to the bottom line. The opposite is actually true. In reality, results can be simple, quick and easy. New methods such as RIM, can produce immediate results in improved self-awareness, which is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence, repeatedly shown to influence job satisfaction and job performance for employees and effectiveness for leaders.
 
For more information about leadership and team development or RIM, visit www.intus.life/RIM or email mike@intus.life.

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Should you own your own business?

9/24/2013

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Conway Daily Sun
The Entreprenologist
Sept. 25, 2013
By Michael Kline

Whether you already own a business, or are thinking about starting one, the short answer is yes, until it changes to no. You are not the same person today that you were ten years ago, and you won’t be the same person ten years from now that you are today. It does not matter if you are looking backward to when you started a business, or forward to why you want to start something, everything about you changes over time - your family, your financial needs, your personal goals, your attitude, your interests, etc.  It’s no different than a job that no longer suits you – you need to be responsible for your life’s outcomes and make the best of what you’ve got and know when to move on to better things that serve what you need at this time of your life.
 
A business plan is not enough. Convincing a bank to lend you money seems like confirmation enough that you have a good idea, but the bank, as careful and as smart as they are, does not ask enough questions or talk about the most important issues. Getting a bank to say yes, is not confirmation that your business will succeed. In fact, 100% of bank loans that have failed, originally proved itself worthy of a loan.

Next month, I will be teaching a business start-up seminar for our local SCORE chapter. In one full day workshop, we will cover absolutely everything you will need to know to decide if you should start a business, how to go about it, how to become an employer, choose a location, forecast revenue and profits, how to create a quality business plan and a marketing plan. One of my goals is to get most of my students to chicken out before they bet the farm on a bad idea.
Because I know something the bank doesn’t talk about, I want to take you a step further. You must know your industry, your competition, your market, your pricing strategy, your costs and your sales forecasts. You also need to know about leading difficult employees, negotiating with impossible suppliers and landlords, getting along with the IRS, and working 100 hours per week with no benefits, no sick days, no pay and no boss to give you the answers. That’s the easy stuff!

Three questions the bank won’t ask you: 1. What is your exit strategy - How will you retire or sell your business – to whom and for how much, and why would someone want it?  2. Are you physically up to the challenge – how well do you take care of yourself to have the energy to do what it takes and keep doing what it takes when it gets more demanding – and it will. 3. Tell me about your relationship with your mother/or father – yes, this may take more than an hour or two on the couch with a good therapist! Why do you want to do this – beyond making money and being the boss – why this particular business? Whom are you trying to impress? What romantic notions do you have about this industry and the glamor it pretends to hold? Are you limiting your potential not having enough faith in your own skills – or are you getting in over your head, beyond your skills? Are you psychologically fit for what awaits? Are you prepared for the tears (there will be many) and the joy (it may be great) and the successes (that may ruin you) and the rollercoaster ride that is the true nature of all businesses?

In the upcoming SCORE workshop, I will give you three things. All the technical/official information you need, plus  I will share true war stories from the road I have been on for the last thirty years and how we avoided disaster, survived in crisis and thrived in opportunity. Finally, I will also ask hard personal questions for you to take home and consider.

If you are already in business and want to talk exit strategy, email me or find another counselor, (SCORE has some good ones for mature businesses as well). If you are just starting out on your own, come to my class, prepare for an amazing adventure, and get ready to grow in ways you never imagined.

Michael Kline is a local retailer, success coach and trainer. He may be reached through his website, www.klineseminars.com, or e-mail, mike@klineseminars.com.

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Meetings by Candlelight

8/28/2013

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Conway Daily Sun
August 28, 2013
By Michael Kline
Since the discovery of fire, humans have gathered in circles around the fire to tell stories, share ideas and solve problems. Today, our work circles have morphed into long rectangular tables and the fire has moved to one end, known as the PowerPoint presentation. Various members of the circle no longer tell stories. Instead, one
speaker, who wields the remote control of the presentation slides, tells the story. Not surprisingly, most people think meetings are a waste of time.  At home, the situation is often worse, partly because it is more important and partly because it should be under our own control to do better.  At home, our circle gathering at mealtime is often lost to fast food on the go and eating at different times, with no time for sharing, caring or engaging in real communication. Do these things matter? If so, how do we fix it?

In the work environment, employees are looking for more meaning. Employers are seeking engagement from/with their employees.  Their actions demand compliance, but seldom, if ever, promote engagement.  Is this topic about motivation?   Daniel Pink, in his book Drive, teaches us what science knows that business does not. Science knows that intrinsic motivation is more powerful than extrinsic motivation. Business thinks we are motivated exclusively by
dollar incentives. Science knows that once minimal financial needs are met, money is not an effective motivational tool for most people.  

Far more important, is being part of something important, making a  contribution that matters, having positive relationships and feeling engaged. Think about the best boss you ever had. Chances are, that boss made you feel
great about yourself and brought out the best in you. When you do your best work, I bet you were lost in the work, and did not notice the time passing or other distractions. We call that being in “flow”.Flow cannot be bought with the
promise of a bonus.  Positive relationships, engagement (flow), a sense of meaning and achievement happens
when we turn off the PowerPoint and put the fire back into the center of our circle. (We use a candle as a reminder of the metaphor). It happens when we face each other and we have a different kind of conversation. It happens when we all tell our story with intention and we all listen to one another with attention. I must sound like I just got back from a hippie retreat where we all sat around a circle and sang Kumbaya.  I did, and I highly recommend it to anyone who is wondering what is wrong with his or her business or family. The biggest real-life challenge to this concept is time
and the biggest reward is anything you want.

All this takes time. So we risk productivity and we slow down. When we slow down and have this experience, we learn from one another. We make it safe for quiet people to speak and share their otherwise hidden wisdom.  We identify real problems and solve them, instead of rushing judgments and covering up symptoms. We build trust. When we have trust, we make decisions faster and with more confidence. With trust, everything moves faster and costs less.  In low-trust environments, everything moves more slowly and costs go up. 

Steven Covey, in Predictable Results in Unpredictable Times, calls this “moving at the speed of trust”. When we slow
down, and invest in the painfully slow, but hugely rewarding process of listening to and valuing one another, we actually are speeding things up.

The reward comes in the form of building a team that cares. Actually, we are building a tribe, who lives to come to the circle around the fire and share and care, and contribute their ideas and solve the group’s problems and commit to the collective future and who asks for what they need and who give what they can. We have the power to create such an amazing existence.

I found my inspiration for returning to this seemingly basic, yet complex and ancient idea of gathering and communicating, from the book The Circle Way, a Leader in Every Chair by Christina Baldwin and Ann Linnea. I just returned from The Circle Practicum, a five-day intensive retreat (www.peerspirit.com) with the authors and a group of business people, teachers, legal professionals, ministers and dreamers who were so inspirational, I can’t wait to share more with you. Stay tuned, or contact me for details.

Michael Kline is a local retailer, success coach and trainer. He may be reached through his website, www.klineseminars.com, or e-mail, mike@klineseminars.com.

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Ready for Some New Answers?

6/22/2011

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Conway Daily Sun, Wed. June 22, 2011
by Michael Kline, The Entreprenologist

7 Steps to this, 5 pillars of that, 3 most life-changing what-evers, and let us not forget 8 Minute Abs… who buys this stuff and why?!  Is any of it believable? Does any of it work?  I certainly have never tried the 8 Minute Abs workout. For personal and business development however, I have the books and the training tapes and I follow the blogs from gurus like Seth Godin, Anthony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, E-Myth, Verne Harnish (Gazelle Coaching), Steven Covey (7 Habits), and dozens of others.  I do think that yes, most of it really works, most of it is totally true and applicable to the real world, and most of it is worth every penny they charge for their material. I also think most of it isn’t really anything that new.

I’ve been teaching business development in one fashion or another since 1992. We now enjoy in our workforce, employees that we not even born then who are convinced they know far more than I do, and when it comes to the 8 Minute Abs Workout, or how to use any I-Gizmo, I concede.  Sounding like your father? (I know – shoot me now)!  I’m glad our youth are smarter than me – it’s progress, but I’ve learned a few things in the last twenty years that only experience can teach.

I’ve experienced that knowledge isn’t wisdom.  I’ve experienced that knowing something intellectually is not the same as being motivated to do it. Wisdom seldom changes. We need to stop looking for the new short cut to happiness and study the tried and true principles that have always worked.

There is nothing new.  What appears new is the same wisdom with more modern language, more current examples and sexier metaphors; if the new program/system/method is of any quality, the meaning and the intent is all the same as the old stuff.  Earl Nightingale, the father of the self-help training industry said most everything Anthony Robbins says today. I got a promotional email from Robin Sharma and a blog post by Seth Godin this week both talking about lessons we learned from Stephen Covey in the late 1980’s. In 1976, Stephen Covey studied self-help literature for the previous 200 years and brought us back to principle-based teachings that had been abandoned in this country for prior fifty years. His research was new; his wisdom was ancient. For this reason, I still use Stephen Covey’s principle-based lessons in my work today; it never gets old and there are no better or more current answers, especially relating to EQ vs. IQ.  The growing importance of EQ (emotional intelligence) will have to wait for another column, but Covey covers the basics very nicely.

I’ve experienced that we do better when we stop working so much on technique and work more on character and principles. With the proper foundation, the techniques and methodology fall into place more easily. In business, we must have technique, but we must always be coming from a desire to be of service. I don’t mean to be trained in what to say to customers, although that’s important – I mean to have a sense of service in our hearts; to be passionate about the experiences our customers desire and passionate about our role in making that experience possible.

In my experience, we read these motivational and educational books and go to the seminars, and then it’s near impossible to implement the ideas into real life. Most business owners or managers do not have the time to figure out how to distill the wisdom of the best ideas into a workable plan they can actually execute.  Further, if you had the workable plan, who has the focus, discipline and time to follow through and get their employees on the same page?

I have taken the concepts from the best of these gurus and distilled them into a plan I call the Five Steps to Freedom.  It contains a little attitude of Tony Robbins (a little Tony goes a long way), the fatherly advice of Brian Tracy, the systems of Michael Gerber (of the E-Myth), made modern and more sophisticated by Verne Harnish, polished with the principles of Stephen Covey in mind, and some Wayne Dyer wisdom of the ages. This is all ancient wisdom, modernized, translated into super-simple lingo that applies to small business and orchestrated into a fill-in-the-blank checklist ready to use in your company.

Even with the availability of all the wisdom, the training and the tools to make it doable, the reality is most business owners will never change. They will continue to work slavishly in their business instead of working on their business, because change is seen as the hardest work of all. Getting what you want is easy. Knowing what you want is hard. Change is easy if you decide you want it.

Michael Kline is a local retailer, success coach and trainer. He may be reached through his website, www.klineseminars.com, or e-mail, mike@klineseminars.com.
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